Uncomfortable around crying?
‘What do you pride yourself on?’…
‘Making people cry'
…said an organisation's director 😮. I recoiled!
Yet, millions of people Google ‘How do i handle someone who cries at work?’
People cry with me too...only more like this...
Apologising British-ly, predicting tears, someone seeking coaching said ‘If people crying is just weird then you don’t need to!’
I replied: ‘Don’t worry – I’m Chief Tissue Officer!’ 😉
Why resist crying?
Many reasons: Saving face; holding it together; not opening floodgates; and not wanting to make others uncomfortable 😩.
Crying benefits:
1. Being able to blurt between sobs and sniffles, not having to hold back and hold it in, is a release 💧.
2. Releasing the stress hormone Cortisol, found in tears – a true stress reliever!
3. Processing and making sense of the problem, even in gulped sentences 🕵.
But is it awkward?
Someone about to bawl is hard to handle for some 👎 – I had a boss who left the room at the first sign of a quivering lip 🙈!
BUT... ‘Cry Care 101’ = ‘That’s OK, you let it out,’ having tissues handy - and just being there 👍.
And when someone cries, feels better, AND gains CLARITY 👀...it's infectious!
Bonuses include 🥕:
1. Being supportive feels good;
2. It's appreciated 🎁;
3. Getting to know someone better and 👱👩 building trust!
People rarely approach me when all is 💯 hunky-dory...... So, I don’t MAKE, but GIVE them a chance to cry, unpick problems and find answers 💡.
AND we laugh a lot 😂.
So, if it’s unfamiliar, try borrowing the CTO title and let things unfold!
📩 Get in touch if you’re in danger of a teary scenario which I can help you turn around 🕵.